The Compromised Uncompromiser

I talk a good game. I talk a good game because I've been up to some big stuff. I've done more in my life then I ever thought I could.

...but things got comfy and I've been on cruise control, enjoying a certain degree of success.

I've written about 30,000 words of a book that I've committed to writing yet haven't written in 2+ months -at least not anything substantial. At first I was taking time to clarify my audience, to reread and edit what I'd written. But now it's been almost 3 months and I can't deny that I'm compromised.

My word to myself, in terms of slotted writing times, I've breeched. Agreements to myself to at least capture this concept or that on paper have found a backseat to clearing of junk from my desk (which did need attention). Again and again I've compromised to the point where I now see blatantly that my compromises of my integrity and identity are because I'm scared.

I'm scared to be an author, the speaker for $10k/hr and coach for $50k/yr. I'm scared that I could have the impact and actually get what I say I want, and I have to deal with it.

The principles/standards for which I stand and live to teach don't need to change; I do.

Where have you been dodging your destiny for noble sounding activity?

RR

Maximum Impact or...just a demographic?

If you don't know who you are, how can you have powerful, maximum impact on others?

To have maximum impact in your life, for your family, on the job, in the world... Know thyself!

There is something interesting to consider as you think about who you are. Your identity is the sum total of your experiences, your upbringing, your demographic...

...or is it?

What does being white or black or yellow have to do with who you really are? What does your income have to do with anything?

If you had to bring your car to a mechanic, and needed to get the job done right, would you need to know the shade of the mechanic's skin pigment? If you were choking at a restaurant, would you deny the assistance of someone who could help to look for another of a similar age or sexual orientation?

Give me a break. At the end of the day, what we each care about is who someone is in terms of the quality of person they are...and what we can count on them for -not where they grew up or how they pray!

You want to have maximum impact to include personal fulfillment in every area of life...? Get over your pride or pity about your demographic and be the man or woman you were born to be. Decide who you are and live it.

Bye Now,

RR

Methodical vs. The Spasmodic

Most people avoid doing what it takes on a regular basis to live powerfully/happily. Thinking it's easier not think about what they want, make a plan, alter it as necessary and work hard -too many compromise and die as Thoreau said, "with their music still in them." These people, live by spasms of energy, creativity or action as they survive in their status-quo. Maybe you work with someone like this... Maybe you are one of these people.

Others, 'The Uncompromised', see life as a precious gift to be appreciated and used! The Uncompromised realize that success is about doing the things that are uncomfortable, challenging and sometimes, just plain old painful -on a regular basis. In other words, The Uncompromised do what creates the results they want -and do them methodically (consciously planned and executed). They have endurance...a lifestyle. They are not sampling, they live their commitments.

Are you living methodically or sustained by spasms?

RR

Defend or Dominate? It Depends...

Want to know how to suffer a lot in life?

Be defensive. Which means always be on alert, insecure and ever vigilant against anything that could be perceived as a potential threat to your delicate self-image.

Dominate others. In your inability to control your fears and insecurities, find fault in and look to control or manipulate someone else.

Want to know how to find great fulfillment in life?

Booker T. Washington said that, "It takes as much energy to hold someone down as it does to lift them up." Indeed!

Take that energy you've used to question yourself and be defensive -in other words, hold yourself down...and choose to dominate those negative thoughts with mighty affirmations that embrace your innate and inextinguishable power -in other words, lift yourself (and others) up!.

Snooze

Boy, at 5am the snooze bar is so alluring. 9 more minutes...

Needed rest...
I'll use this time to think...
I went to bed late last night...
It's only 9 minutes...
I deserve...
Sleeping is good for you, so...
I didn't sleep that good last night so...

The old saying goes, "If you snooze you lose." Yeah, no kidding. When you make a promise to yourself and 'hit the snooze', you compromise your word, your promise to yourself, you sell yourself a line of junk and then you buy it and then you wonder why you can't find clarity in terms of your identity (who am I really) and what your purpose (what am I here for).

It all starts with your word to yourself. Speak only conscious commitments to yourself and follow through no matter what. If your word means nothing to you, no one else will buy your hype, posing and junk dressed up as sincerity and commitment.

What's the Alternative?

If you aren't 'uncompromised', what are you?

Being uncompromised is like being perfect or sinless -it aint reality. However reality isn't the focus and neither is perfection. The point around the 'uncompromised' conversation is to force us into consciousness regarding all of our decisions.

If you weigh 220 pounds and you're 5' 3" or you're 6' 4" and solid muscle, well, ok. I'm not going to tell you to be something different. If you are rich or just getting by, cool. Just be aware of what you've got...what your life is. If how you're living is a good representation of what you feel is your true identity, how you are to live out your purpose, and ultimately your legacy, great! Don't let anyone undermine your confidence, your plan or your progress.

If, however, you are living a compromise -the alternative... Then this steel toe boot is for you. You can't scam me, you definitely can't scam yourself anymore. Choose this day whom you will serve. It'll either be your royal self, deserving of all of life's riches, or the eternal scrap-seeker who never has enough of anything but people and things to blame.

Your identity, integrity, purpose or legacy can't bear the compromise.

Don't Compromise,

RR

What it Takes to be Uncompromised

1. Know Thyself
2. Notice Thy Impact
3. Be a Good Person -think integrity
4. Do What Thrills You -not what's good enough
5. Be Enthusiastic
6. Do the Courageous Thing
7. Do it Consistently
8. Look Around and Find Someone to Lift Higher
9. Enjoy Living Your Legacy